Take Your Sweet Old Time

I recently held a Wellness Session with a dear client going through a very tough breakup. A true untangling of home, stuff, dog, etc. A breakup initiated by her partner about 2 months ago.  

This woman is strong, beautiful, intelligent, and highly capable. But she is, without question, in pain. Anyone would be. And yet her family, friends, and coworkers seem to think she should be getting over it by now.

I have to admit, I was a bit stunned when she shared that sentiment. But then I remembered: people are uncomfortable with deep, raw, honest pain. It's not necessarily fun to be around and takes a great deal of courage to hold true space for it. To accept it. 

Nevertheless, we must allow ourselves and our loved ones permission to grieve for the things that are lost. We must grant them the sovereignty to take as much time as they need for this process, without comparison or judgement. 

Ending a major relationship isn't something to be solved in a weekend of Tinder dates and positive affirmations. And the healing of a heart that's broken requires great kindness, care, and rest as the tender cords of trust grow back together again, stronger, braver, and even more resilient.

So the next time you, or someone you know is grieving the loss of a relationship, please, encourage them to take their sweet old time as they move through the process. With space and time to process a loss one will eventually rise - like a phoenix - transforming burnt ash into something strong and magnificent.

To work together on healing your heart, I look forward to connecting over a session.